In Grief, Take As Long A Road As You Need

A poem in the wake of tragedy. Photo: Deborah McNamara (Boulder, Colorado; Site of the 3/22/21 mass shooting) In grief:Take as longa roadas you need,mingling withheartbreakingholy darknessgiving spaceto each chasmcalling for tending. When emerging,coming up for breathhold firm in keepinglightalive and well,find ways to live brightnessand lovein wakeof unimaginable heartlessness. Do not succumb to pressureto …

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When Love Reaches Beyond Itself

A poem on setting the gift of love free. Image by Tegawi on Pixabay What do you do whenlove would have you crazyat the seamswanting to seep through every crackuntil there was nothing leftbut clear smooth stillness? When the reach from cavernsruns deeplike a gift so vastit cannot be wrappedbut instead only extends outwardslike night …

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When Life Bestows a Gift

A poem on being present to receive life’s gifts, as well as let them go. Photo: Inspired Images on Pixabay Sometimes life bestows a gift,emerging mysteriouslyfrom unknown origins.Some are brief,fleeting,unexpected —like wisps of songthrough crack of open window.Others:made for the long roadto carry for a lifetime. Whatever is true,be there to receivewhat is offered.Participate.Don’t ask …

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A Midnight Lightbulb: How Sleepless Nights With the Baby Transformed Me for Good

Learning that love can shine through, even with a shrieking child at 3 am. “Love can change a person the way a parent can change a baby — awkwardly, and often with a great deal of mess.” ~ Lemony Snicket, A Series of Unfortunate Events One of the consistent times when I needed to “practice” …

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How Parenthood Can Devour Our Egos in the Best Possible Way

Sometimes we can set ourselves free by setting ourselves aside “Much of motherhood, from the very first hour, carries the early warning signs of ego warfare. I want to sleep. She wants to eat. I need to do this. She needs to do that. Not again. Again. It can feel as though someone were eating …

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How Family Life Dishes Up Life’s Greatest Lessons

And why you should know about the Buddhist practice of “Beginner’s Mind.” Photo: Deborah McNamara (Glacier National Park, Montana) "Having a beginner's mind means having an attitude of openness, eagerness and freedom from preconceptions when approaching anything...It is that delicious state when you are sure of nothing, yet completely fearless, totally available to the moment." …

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Divine Playfulness: How Parenthood Taught Me to Drop the Agenda & Savor Instead

Beauty is everywhere, even in the parking lot. Photo: Deborah McNamara (Lucca, Italy) “The Divine Mother is always playful and sportive. The universe is Her play. She is full of bliss.” ~ Ramakrishna, Indian Mystic and Yogi Perhaps the most poignant invitation of motherhood has been to enter into a new realm of quiet poetry …

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A Whole New Normal: How Motherhood Taught Me Flexibility and Adaptability in the Face of Change

Photo: Deborah McNamara (Stillwater River, Montana) “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~ Alan Watts, Author of The Way of Zen Raising young children brings with it the widest spectrum of experience and emotion. There are the highs and sweet joys. Then …

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